And the author then follows that headline with "Ladies, before you angrily dismiss me, hear me out...You don’t have to have a brain, drive or special skill set to get married. You just have to have a willing partner."
1st of all, I just want to note that an equal amount of MEN commented on this article as women did.
1st of all, I just want to note that an equal amount of MEN commented on this article as women did.
Here's my thoughts....
"You just have to have a willing partner"... sounds like what they say about sex now-a-days...
Getting married IS an accomplishment, it means you accomplished putting aside all of your selfishness and insecurities to be really real with someone - to care about them as much as (or more than) you care about yourself.
It means you've learned to work together on all things, you've learned to share secrets with them, you've learned there are no more secrets, you've learned to make JOINT everything- life goals, decisions, plans, accounts.
You have bettered yourself and another by being together for a common goal- happiness. If that's not an accomplishment, then I don't ever want to be associated with people who agree with this woman.
She sounds alone and bitter about it.
It's OK to be happy for other people.
My married life isn't paradise everyday, and the whole getting married thing was a shitshow... but I work hard on my relationship and our family and life together every minute.
I feel accomplished every day we stay together, through the good times and bad, through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, all that mumbo jumbo we agreed to. That's all real. See how many of your "besties" or bosses or Facebook friends or degrees will actively stay by your side and mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially support you through cancer, through loss of job, through loss of home, through petty arguments, through depression, through alcoholism, through rehab. Marriage is bigger than all that. When I am on my deathbed, my shared life and love and moments and the essence and memories with this person is what I will cherish, not my degrees or career.
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