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Let's stop the SHAMING

Fat shaming. Slut shaming. Thin shaming. White shaming. Privilege shaming. Straight shaming. Fake tan and comb over shaming. Shame shame shame on you!

I had no idea that I am quadruply privileged. Apparently... I need to check my white privilege, my straight privilege, my thin privilege, and my woman privilege.

Why does being what I am, make me privileged? Why does working hard and benefiting from it make me privileged? WHY DOS EVERYONE ELSE THINK I'M PRIVILEGED AND I'M ALL OVER HERE LIKE "WOE IS ME.... LIFE SUCKS"????

I think I know the answer.

When people are unhappy with things, they like to disagree. Makes sense. I agree with that. When people are unhappy with things that they don't want to take responsibility for, they start to blame/shame other people. 

I am fat. I feel lesser.                                  You make me feel lesser. Shame on you!
I am black. I feel lesser.                              You make me feel lesser. Shame on you!
I am a woman. I feel lesser.                        You make me feel lesser. Shame on you!
I am not straight. I feel lesser.                    You make me feel lesser. Shame on you!
I don't want to be normal. I feel lesser.       You make me feel lesser. Shame on you!

How about this. 

I am fat. I like how I am. I like how I look. I don't care what you think. I feel good. Life is good
I am black. I like how I am. I like how I look. I don't care what you think. I feel good. Life is good
I am a woman. I like how I am. I like how I look. I don't care what you think. I feel good. Life is good
I am not straight. I like how I am. I like who I love. I don't care what you think. I feel good. Life is good.
I am not a social norm. I like how I am. I like how I look, live, feel. I don't care what you think. I feel good about me. LIFE IS GOOD.

How about, instead of TRYING to change everyone else's mind- you start with the one mind you CAN change. YOURS. You start by talking nicer to yourself. You start by not lying to yourself. You start by making yourself feel good. You start by accepting yourself. You start by blocking out the haters. EVERY motivational speaker says "F**k the haters" (in some way or another). I don't think they mean "shame the haters!" or "change the haters!", because these are people who already know that you can only change you. And you are the key holder to your own happiness. And you ... you you you -be selfish!- you are your most important person. You are your own worst critic, and your own cheerleader, and your own support group, and your own fashion or beauty consultant, your own fitness consultant, your own matchmaker. 

Take responsibility of YOUR life. You can only shame or blame yourself after reading this. No one else matters. And if what they say or do matters more to you than what you say or do to yourself.... You damn well better check yourself before you wreck yourself.

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