The (NOT SO) Skinny Girl

I posted this one year ago on my FB page. Little did I know that within a year, everyone would be trying to tell everyone else how to live 100% worse than they were at that moment in time. What do I mean? "Accept trans people, let them use your bathroom, and don't call them by any pronouns associated with any specific gender" "Accept feminists, listen to their rants, support them as they protest, pay for their birth control" "Accept pro-choice supporters, because you're a woman and you should know we should have the only control over our own bodies. If that means everyone in the country chips in for our birth control and medical well-being and abortions, so be it. We have the right to choose" "Accept illegal aliens, let them live here free of national responsibility, pay for their medical, send their kids to the schools you pay for, don't alienate them" "Accept fat people, don't act like their lifestyle is unhealthy,...

I absolutely love this.  Let me break it down for you: Observe:  notice or perceive something and register it as being significant Taste:  perceive or experience the flavor of Dream: thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person's mind during sleep, to contemplate the possibility of doing something Feel: be aware of or experience a sensation Live: to remain alive Why wouldn't you do all of these things?  (Ask yourself that...)

Taking Responsibility For Your Life Everything you are or ever will be is completely up to you. Everything that has happened and is happening in your life is because of your behavior, words, and actions. You have the freedom of choice. Virtually every circumstance in your life so far, you have chosen out of your own free will. This means, that you are completely responsible for all your successes and failures; your happiness; your unhappiness; and everything in your present and future. This realization is like a parachute jump: It’s scary and exhilarating at the same time. Taking total responsibility for your life is one of the most important things you can ever do. Accepting complete responsibility for all your actions represents maturity in your life. When you accept complete responsibility for everything in your life, success, achievement, and self-actualization will follow. You can never accomplish anything of value in your life or have any real measure of happiness without firs...

Even if that something is just getting out of bed. Or eating a banana or yogurt instead of a bagel. Or walking up the stairs instead of taking the elevator. Or holding the door for someone-- or not expecting a gracious response when you do. Or putting in a little extra effort on one project, with one client, or with your spouse or child or dog. Think about what the smallest step you can take towards a huge goal is... and do it.  And the least thing you can do to make your tomorrow better, is to just smile today. The tiniest things, the smallest steps is how you get started, get going. In the words of Dominick Torreto: "It doesn't matter if it's an inch or a mile, winning's winning."

So tax season is in full swing. My documents are in the queue to be processed and filed with my accountant. Which brings me to my first point of discussion.... using an actual person (accountant) to do your taxes vs. Turbo tax (or other electronic self-filing program). -If you are outraged that wealthy people (including Trump) get 'unfair' tax breaks, what have you done to remedy your own situation? Have you read up on tax law lately? Do you know the ins and outs of the system? Do you know how to make it work for you? Do you know the secrets of the trade? NO?! THEN WHY THE  F**K  ARE YOU USING A SELF GUIDED PROGRAM TO COMPLETE YOUR TAXES? -If you think that having a professional do your taxes is too expensive, and would rather let a cheap or free program assist you, then why are you crying that you don't make out on your taxes? -If you cry year after year about how your 'return' turns out... why aren't you seeking additional guidance/assistance? Why are yo...

There are so many things to compare and fight for in this day and age. Comparing women vs men and fighting for equal rights. Comparing legal citizens vs illegal citizens and fighting for their rights. Comparing gay vs straight, humanitarian outlook vs self-survival outlook, or classic gender assignment vs new age gender assignment.... really the list can go on but I'm already face-palming and shaking my head.... WHY? Because the bottom line is we are all HUMANS (right??) and we all have certain unalienable rights- in my opinion best outlined as life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness... and then to be sub-categorized accordingly. What I would like to focus on, in light of February being BLACK HISTORY MONTH, is the Black vs White conundrum that all people are faced with. Last night I attended an event, and I was the minority. Me. White, suburban ME. I was out to promote a dear friend of mine and have a good time. I was out of place and felt it. There were a hand...

Make up your mind- no really, make it up! That's the first step- making a decision. When you really truly believe in the decision, you can take the next step- DO IT. Like NIKE, just do it!

You don't know oh how important and relevant this thought is to me today. For almost year I have sat pondering my existence, I woke up with a bleak outlook and have wallowed in self pity instead of making moves to make it better. And everyday when I went to bed, I hoped and prayed the next day would be better. I never realized I was missing opportunities TODAY. I couldn't bring myself to the point where I knew that hopes and prayers weren't what I needed- that action is what I needed. Allowing yourself to be consumed by depression, not seeking help, but instead settling into that rushing spiraling void can be DEBILITATING. If you can sense that YOU are having a problem, don't be afraid to reach out. YOU realizing it is the first step. YOU seeking help is the next. YOU getting better is the anticipated outcome. YOU creating YOUR future is the long term goal. :)

Are you interested in traveling to Puerto Rico? Are you also interested in (to say the least) animals? Their companionship, their well being, and their overall health and happiness? Are you aware of the epidemic of animal abuse and neglect in Puerto Rico? Are you aware of the approximately 250,000 stray dogs that line the beaches and streets of once jovial, extremely beautiful Puerto Rico? Are you aware that, if not from starvation, exposure to the elements or being hit by a car and left untreated and suffering, then their demise will ultimately be at the direct hands of humans – in illegal fighting rings or other malicious acts. Recently a bill was presented to the Vice President of the Puerto Rico Senate - Senator Dalmau. This bill was backed by the US Humane Society and The Puerto Rico Association of Hotels and Tourism. Why? Because it's estimated that the island loses around 15 million dollars annually from travelers that will not return or will not recommend because ...

In the words of Eminem: "I am, whatever you say I am.  If I wasn't, then why would I say I am?  In my eyes, Eminem is admitting to being everything everyone ever said he was. That's actually awesome- because he accepts who he is (his faults, his failures, his haters), he doesn't blame other people. He wants to be perceived exactly the way he is, no political correctness, no sugar coating, no ulterior motives. He's being REAL, and he wants to be real , and he wants to be known for being real. However, there are plenty of times that people are perceived in away that is not true to WHO THEY ARE. Personally, for me, I'd like to correct that... to... " I am, whatever you say I am.  If I wasn't, then why would  YOU  say I am?" In my life, I have felt a lot of labels were placed on me. Some maybe I earned, some maybe I outgrew, some maybe I had no knowledge of. I did feet at some points that I received labels that I did not like or agree with, and...

I used to go on Facebook to check in on my friends and family. My best friends live in places like California, Boston, Oklahoma... I also have family in Poland that we like to keep tabs on... my little sister lives in Chicago.... And I miss them all dearly. Facebook was the best way to keep up with their lives, see their wonderful faces, and feel connected to them. All of a sudden- within the past year or so?- Facebook has become a place of darkness, of utter negativity. The complainers, the haters, the shamers, the "I know better than you" opinion sharers. The self-proclaimed "social justice warriors" battling it out with every person [they deem to be a bigot, racist, or - in reality- just] in disagreement with their idea or way of expressing it. Sorry but not sorry- when did we stop "agreeing to disagree"? When did we write people off for their political views, or their ideals, or their opinions about random shit? The "you-wouldn't- u...

Some thoughts on how to live a better, more positive life 💖 Live beneath your means Return everything you borrow Give clothes not worn to charity Do something nice and try not to get caught Don’t make excuses Don’t argue Stop blaming other people Admit when you make a mistake Listen more, talk less Be kind to people Be kind to unkind people Let someone cut ahead of you in line Be on time Get organized Strive for excellence, not perfection Take time to be alone Cultivate good manners Be humble Realize and accept that life isn’t fair Stop creating unrealistic expectations Know when to keep your mouth shut Go an entire day without criticizing anyone Go an entire day with smile on your face Everyday take a 30 minute walk Learn from the past  --  Plan for the future  --  Live in the present Don’t sweat the small stuff (it’s almost all small stuff). Don't forget- we were born to be REAL, not perfect.

Protesting. This is a normality now. It is an everyday occurrence. Another thing we have to consider "the new normal", right next to terror attacks and 'shootings'. We all heard about the women's marches... the most famous was the one on DC the day after the inauguration. But let me point out- this movement was organized and marches were held on a WORLDWIDE LEVEL.... which got me thinking that that issue actually has NOTHING TO DO WITH TRUMP.... But what do I know? I'm just a woman-- who's not afraid of a Trump-governed America. But that's not the only thing being marched or protested about. Gays were out in full force this weekend- They piggybacked the women's rally with signs that said things like "If I can't marry my boyfriend, I'll marry your daughter". I am not sure what that has to do with anything, but it seems disrespectful to the women who are marching for THEIR rights. Organize your own damn rally!! Blacks were p...

It seems the idea of being a 'housewife' is outdated, and is now widely considered a negative thing. I think that people who don't revere it, know nothing about it. People who think that running the household or child-rearing is not the most important thing a woman- or any parent can do- or that a woman can do so much more than the 'petty nuances of a stay at home mom'- this one is for you! Because, as a wife, I beg to differ. And the bible, an ancient text with so much profound wisdom to offer, actually states a wife's character is nothing short of NOBLE. I have copied and pasted the text, and of course added my insight. ;) Enjoy- or don't... your choice. Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character   Proverbs 31:10-31 10  A wife of noble character  who can find?  She is worth far more than rubies. She is invaluable. That's a no-brainer. 11  Her husband  has full confidence in her  and lacks nothing of value. Her husband definitely knows it, and knows ...

As the nation celebrates  # MLK  Jr day — some would say it's important to note the current movement, that his people are still fighting the battle he started. They may go as far as to remind us all that people today are more critical of the movement for black lives than they were of the civil rights movement in the 60's. And then they ask-- How do we change that? ~~~Here we go... you want 2 cents? I got it!~~~ I think that what most people in this day and age forget, is that MLK Jr WAS A PACIFIST- That is probably the big difference. He was also educated. He calculated his words. He calculated the response to his words. He calculated his response to their response. He thought things out and always stayed true to his core self- being a pacifist (which means he wholeheartedly believed that war and violence are unjustifiable). And thus, he will always be remembered as the biggest ACTIVIST. His demeanor, his actions, his very well thought out words and marches were the...