People are "blaming parents of millennials" for the way their kids turned out.
But think of it this way-
OUR parent's(and their parent's before them) generation grew up and raised us by breaking their backs and pinching pennies so we(the children) would have everything we 'wanted and deserved' and thus they handed us many things with the reasoning that "their parents were never able to do it like this"
...So instead of us working hard and breaking our backs for things we wanted starting at a very young age(as our parents and grandparents did before us), some of us became accustomed to things being bestowed upon us and grew up thinking that was how the world worked.
Our parents- most of them- were great people only trying to do what they thought was best for us.
But a little bit of working for something and appreciating it when you earned it can surely go a long long way.
I have had a job since I was 12 or so and lived mostly on my own since 18. I paid for my own college, my own cars, my own phones and lots of bills. Even grew up to pay for the majority of my own wedding, and the entire down payment on my own house (with some help from my hubby on the last 2).
But there are very many out there who their parents thought
"it sucked for me to have to pay for my own college, I don't want my kids to be burdened by that- I will pay for it" ...
or
"it sucked having no car after I got my license and having to walk to work until I could afford it so I will buy them their first car"...
Those parents saw it as they were suffering when they went through it, and we should have better lives--- they didn't realize they were also learning valuable life skills, work ethic, and the ability to appreciate a hard earned _____ (paycheck, beer, pat on the back, whatever).
So who do we blame? The parents? The kids? Or each one of ourselves for the way we have turned out? Now that's food for thought.
But think of it this way-
OUR parent's(and their parent's before them) generation grew up and raised us by breaking their backs and pinching pennies so we(the children) would have everything we 'wanted and deserved' and thus they handed us many things with the reasoning that "their parents were never able to do it like this"
...So instead of us working hard and breaking our backs for things we wanted starting at a very young age(as our parents and grandparents did before us), some of us became accustomed to things being bestowed upon us and grew up thinking that was how the world worked.
Our parents- most of them- were great people only trying to do what they thought was best for us.
But a little bit of working for something and appreciating it when you earned it can surely go a long long way.
I have had a job since I was 12 or so and lived mostly on my own since 18. I paid for my own college, my own cars, my own phones and lots of bills. Even grew up to pay for the majority of my own wedding, and the entire down payment on my own house (with some help from my hubby on the last 2).
But there are very many out there who their parents thought
"it sucked for me to have to pay for my own college, I don't want my kids to be burdened by that- I will pay for it" ...
or
"it sucked having no car after I got my license and having to walk to work until I could afford it so I will buy them their first car"...
Those parents saw it as they were suffering when they went through it, and we should have better lives--- they didn't realize they were also learning valuable life skills, work ethic, and the ability to appreciate a hard earned _____ (paycheck, beer, pat on the back, whatever).
So who do we blame? The parents? The kids? Or each one of ourselves for the way we have turned out? Now that's food for thought.
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