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Dear (American) Women... seriously tho...

Dear (American) Women,
How was A Day Without a Woman? Did you participate? Were you able to see how under-appreciated you are, on that very day in that very moment, by your spouse, your children, your coworkers, your employers, and all those businesses you spend your money at? Did you feel empowered? Did you feel strong? Did you feel brave? DO YOU REALLY FEEL LIKE WOMEN (IN America) STILL HAVE SUCH A LONG WAY TO GO TO REACH EQUALITY?

I am a woman. I was born in America, I was raised inAmerica, and I am currently struggling to live in America. I would not say struggling to SURVIVE in America. Survival here is easy, almost handed to you. You just have to have half an ounce of common sense to survive here. Living here is a little harder, mostly because I follow the path of the self-sufficient woman. That is hard. But what makes it hardER is personal choices and scenarios. Not every woman's life in America is as hard as mine, or as easy as mine. Not every woman has CHOSEN the life I live or the path I lead. So not every (or really, any) woman in America can look at me and say "woe is you" or "shut up, you don't have it so bad". 

Here are a few examples of statements made by women in the US that just make me shake my head, make my mouth drop open, or make me face palm (hard)......

"male-dominated industry"
I personally don't think women in the workforce is THAT new. That being said, there are some "women dominated industries" out there too- nursing, administration, equine, teaching, food service(waitressing in particular), etc. No one bats an eye at the thought that most of these positions are filled by women. But people bat an eye when a woman states that any industry is 'male dominated'. This goes hand in hand with my second point- we will get there in a moment. I truly wholeheartedly agree that if an industry is statistically male, it is only because women are afraid, unwilling, or uninterested to try themselves in that industry. That makes it a personal choice that results in the statistics that we see. And that is no one's fault. If other women are uninterested in the industry, it actually gives you, as a woman who is interested in it, a better opportunity to get in. Succeeding in it is also in your hands. You have to be willing to put the long hours in, neglect your family and SO ON - as men are bashed for doing.

READ: http://www.njbiz.com/article/20170213/NJBIZ01/170219942/barriers-to-entry-with-so-few-women-on-boards-is-it-any-surprise-so-few-women-run-banks-in-new-jersey

READ : http://www.njbiz.com/article/20160804/DIVERSIFIED/308049997/breaking-jobgender-barriers-heres-how-professionals-are-overcoming-preconceived-notions-about-the-type-of-work-they-should-be-doing

READ: http://www.njbiz.com/article/20141116/NJBIZ01/141119841/Triple-Play:-Three-tips-for-a-woman-in-a-male-dominated-industry

READ: http://www.njbiz.com/article/20160307/BREAKINGGLASS/160309833/for-womens-history-month-a-look-at-some-of-njs-trailblazers


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