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unrealistic expectations pt 1

Divorce rates are high- we know that. 
Right now in the media things people are chatting about is :
"How many times has Donald Trump been married?"
"How did Hillary stay with Bill?"
"how many guys does Taylor Swift go through?"
"Amber Heard and Johnny Depp get divorced after ___ months"

I'd like to think of "forever" and "happily ever after" all that stuff- but sometimes people aren't a good match. Sometimes people change. Sometimes the grass is greener. Sometimes there's just someone truly better. Sometimes, we are lazy and don't put the work in (especially when shit isn't so easy) and that's when it all fizzles out. 
And everyone says it- "The key to relationships is good communication". How many people work on their communication skills? How many people actually HEAR and DIGEST what the other person is saying to them- especially when it has to do with FEELINGS. It would be a reassuring thing to know that even if there is an [heated]argument between the two of you, you know how you're going to get past it. Not everyone has that though. Not everyone talks about every little thing.

I love my husband. Times get tough. We fight over everything from groceries, money, time spent together, time spent apart, time spent with friends, time spent with the dog, what town we want to live in, who's going to do the laundry.... the list goes on. Most is petty stuff. But, I'm a talker. He really has no choice but to talk it through if I want to. Our biggest issues arise when he is the one not doing the talking. He likes to keep things locked up. We have way more serious blow-outs over those kind of issues than anything else. 

But seriously, I told someone today that I definitely feel "happily ever after" is a unrealistic expectation. I do not look forward to my marriage failing. I do not think it is "inevitable" in any way. I don't even think about it. However- I am not going to kid myself and think that it's like a fairy tale. I know that work, blood, sweat, and tears will go in to making this last. I'm up for the challenge.
ARE YOU?
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